"I am obsessed with Ariella Elovic . . . She is a gem, a light in the darkness, and a balm for the weary soul." -Samantha Irby, New York Times bestselling author of Wow, No Thank You

A fun, fully illustrated guide to the decade of major milestones and surprising setbacks-celebrating the flailing, failing, and figuring out.

Do you sometimes wake up and wonder if your true adult life is just across the country? If you'll ever have the confidence to roast a whole chicken for a dinner party that you'll host at your apartment, atop a fully accessorized dining table?

34-year-old Brooklyn-based illustrator and author Ariella Elovic has spent the last four years investigating (and being plagued by) these questions, and she writes with a revelation: The truth is, thirty (and adulthood) isn't about finally feeling settled. It's about understanding that life is in the in-between.

In these pages, Ariella presents an array of disorienting, thrilling, disappointing, hilarious, and grounding experiences in all the most important areas of life-from home to career, through family and love-offering ways she's been able to find “richness in the flailing.” Despite all that we've been told, our thirties are actually made more valuable by not having everything figured out.